Be My Valentine♥ Oh hell- let's just have sex.

Be my sexy Valentine

Whether you're cynical or a hopeless romantic, most of us feel a collective sense of sexual anticipation (obligation?) surrounding Valentine’s Day. It's one of those sexually charged holidays, right up there with birthdays and anniversaries - you're just SUPPOSED to have sex to celebrate.

Am I the only one who thinks this is kind of weird? Feeling obligated to give it up because it's a holiday supposedly for lovers- that is NOT how it should feel.  I'm not even sure who I'm obligated to - me? My husband? St. Valentine? Hallmark?

What do you think? Will you be having sex tomorrow? Do you feel any sense of obligation? What other romantic gestures will you make?  Maybe just some cuddling is in order. Maybe a favorite movie, or a nice dinner. There are a lot of ways to show love and affection without the pressure of having to have sex, but any one of which could lead to getting sweaty in the bedroom after the kids are asleep.

Maybe it is my killer PMS talking. Maybe it is the fact my hubby will be working. I  guess I will have to be happy making heart shaped pizza and having strawberry milkshakes for dessert with my kiddos.  Maybe my mister will pick up a bottle of my favorite pink bubbly as a surprise. (I know you are reading this honey- so that is a not so subtle hint!) 

 In any case- my Valentine of 15 years knows I love him, and I know he loves me. So here's to the lovers, new and established. I hope you all have a nice, romantic happy day tomorrow. I know I will- no matter what!

Valentines Day and other Holidays with Autism

I remember school holiday parties with Teenzilla- elaborate goody bags for her classmates, some fancy treat for the party, and of course getting her all dolled up too.  Things are sooooo much different with The Boy.

First off- all of the sugar fueled hysteria that is a class holiday party stresses him out. Games and crafts hold no interest for him, and he is such a picky eater that the food doesn't matter to him either.

When he was in the AI (autistic impaired) class - they always had VERY low key celebrations. Usually these included just the class of 5-6 kids, so it was quieter and much more relaxed. They had the opportunity to go visit their mainstream classrooms for their celebrations- but The Boy would go for all of 5 minutes and immediately want to go back to his other class.  He is doing the same thing in his new school- with the exception of Halloween, when he was completely mainstreamed and not just part time. Now that he spends a good part of his day in a contained special ed class- he still chooses to have his party time with the small group of students as opposed to the big shindig in the other class.

See how much he doesn't give a shit?

This should (and does to some extent) take the pressure off of me to do elaborate goody bags and all that hoopla. I still make heart shaped breakfast and all that. But I have to say I kinda miss doing all that fun stuff. Even for an unimaginative, manipulative interpretation of romance "holiday" most folks know as Valentines Day.